20 lessons I have learnt in the past 20 years.

My teenage years have taught me a lot of valuable lessons, that I continue to hold very close to my heart. I am more confident in myself than ever before – and I can’t wait to see what this new decade has in store for me .

  1. Take Care of Yourself First

Your health should always be a number one priority. It is important to recognize that self-care takes work. It is a conscious daily effort to become aware of what your body needs, and take steps towards meeting these needs. You can only expect out of your body, what you put into it.

2. You’re Going to Feel Lost

One thing that became very clear to me after graduation, is that nobody has life figured out. We all harbour doubt, even when we are doing well. There will be many obstacles standing in the way of where you are, and where you want to be. There will be days where you feel like you can’t handle it, but that is okay. You can only do, what you can do.

3. Take Pride in Everything You Do

Especially when you feel like something is beneath you! Every situation has something to teach you, if you are open to learning. Good work ethic doesn’t stop depending on your position.

4. Stay Humble, Always

When my sister and I were growing up, we were taught that the loudest person in the room, will know the least. Remember to take as much time to listen others, as you take to talk. You can learn a lot by observing others.

5. Don’t Make Excuses, Apologize

Nobody wants to hear excuses, people want to know it won’t happen again. With that, not everybody will accept your apology – and that is okay. Take what you have learned from that situation and don’t do it again. 

6. Time is Your Most Precious Resource

Time is the one thing, that you can never get back. Don’t waste time on work that you hate and people you don’t want to be around. That is so much time slipping through your fingers.

7. Tell Those Around You, How Much They Mean to You

There is never as much time with those you love, then you hope for. Never hesitate to tell those people how much they mean to you.

8. Be Your Own Source of Happiness 

Search for happiness in the things you love and that benefit you. Work on making yourself better, instead of relying on other people for validation.

9. Eliminate Negative People

Don’t waste your time on people who make you feel like you aren’t worthy of what you want. There is nothing selfish about purging unhealthy relationships from your life, no matter who it is.

10. You and Your Friends Will Change

As time goes on, you will begin to decide who you want to be – and so will your friends. Sometimes you are going in the same direction, and sometimes you are not. It can be hard to accept that sometimes the people you thought would be a big part of your future, won’t be there after all. You can adjust your expectations and take comfort in the lessons they have taught you.

11. Invest in Experiences, Not Things 

Take advantage of your youth! You don’t have a lot tying you down right now. No children, no full time job, no house. You have more time and fewer obligations now, than you ever will. Maximize this time. 

12. Dreams Require Sacrifice

If you have big dreams, this will require big work. Yes, sometimes you will have to work nights, weekends, birthdays and holidays. Sometimes you will have to make short term sacrifices to make your long-term goals a reality.

13. Do What You Love

Do something you are passionate about, and the rest will fall into place.

14. Embrace Failure 

Failing is what success is built on, embrace it. Failure means you are doing something.

15. It is Okay to Be Uncomfortable

We always try to eliminate things that makes us uncomfortable. But, discomfort is a part of learning. It is a fundamental aspect of growth. Put yourself in situations that are unfamiliar to you, and you will discover so much about yourself.

16. Relationships Take Work

The best relationships are not taxing. If it is, that is the sign that something needs to change. You have the ability to change the dynamic of every single one of your relationships. You are never trapped, so don’t put yourself in that box.

17. Embrace the Moment

Don’t enjoy life experiences through the lens of your phone. We are all so obsessed with capturing the moment, that sometimes we miss out on the most important part.

18. Don’t Get Too Caught Up in Making Plans 

Rejection hurts in the moment, but it also means that the right opportunity is still out there. It is so important to have goals, but it is equally important to be spontaneous. You never know what each day will bring.

19. We Are All a Work in Progress

None of us are complete. We are all just doing what we can to get by.

20. Never Stop Learning
Never stop taking opportunities to learn and challenge yourself. Always seek out opportunities to make yourself better. You are your biggest investment.


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