As 2018 comes to an end, the season of self-reflection has begun. This time of year, we look inside ourselves and ask– who am I? and who will I become in the upcoming year? The truth is, these “simple” questions are not so simple to answer. These are loaded questions, and most of us have no idea where we will end up 365 days from now.
Whether it be your job, lifestyle, eating habits, exercise routine or even your social circle, nobody is going to make these changes for you. If it is something that you truly wish to achieve, every decision you make should work towards these goals. Having a plan to achieve your goals – is just as important as having the goal itself. What is vision, without execution right? That being said, it can be really hard to figure what you want to achieve and even harder to stay positive, when things don’t go as planned.
Truthfully, I have never been a fan of New Year’s Resolutions. Yes, if you want to make changes in the upcoming year, I encourage you to take that leap. But, the idea of a “resolution” is filled with pressure to succeed on a fixed idea. As we change in the upcoming year, our needs and wants change too. Sometimes you discover things, you never knew you wanted. By having a fixed idea of what it means to be the best version of yourself, you limit yourself from seeing what you really want. You take away the self-discovery.
Not leaving yourself room to grow and adapt, is just a recipe for failure. Think about it, how many of you start the year with a resolution, only to find yourself feeling like shit when you haven’t completed it? It is true that the most sustainable changes, happen gradually and reflection is key. Is this working for you? Are there other ways to meet your goals? Is this something that you still want?
Change is not to force ourselves to live constricting lifestyles, but instead to promote a lifestyle where we can be happy with ourselves and our efforts. Ultimately, it is all about balance and recognizing that you are doing what you can to make yourself better.
New Year’s Resolutions are simply unrealistic. Often, resolutions are about what you think you should do. Instead, try to focus your energy into what you really want to do . If you have absolutely no clue what you want – even better! This is the time in your life to experiment! Why limit yourself to trying one or two new things? I challenge you to push your own limits in the upcoming year. Find out what you love and role with that!
Finally, don’t forget to enjoy the process. The real gold is in the experience, not the end result.